Date a Girl Who Writes

You should date a girl who writes. Date a girl who writes because she most probably also reads. And you know what they say about a girl who reads: So many things! Here’s an excerpt:

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Date a girl who writes because there’s a good chance that she also travels. And you know what they say about girls who travel: Again, so many things. A girl who travels is supposedly not boring, spontaneous, up for trying new things, and independent (read: not clingy). In short, girls who travel are being marketed, or marketing themselves, as potential romantic partners whom men will find easy to deal with.

Yes, a girl who writes will also travel a lot because she needs to expose herself to new people, places and ideas. She needs to learn about the world in order to write about it. And traveling gives her a fresh perspective.

But unlike a girl who travels, a girl who writes won’t be easy to deal with. Even though she’s a traveler, she does not tolerate people who use “cultural differences” as an excuse to be assholes. She has a lot of opinions about a lot of things and is not afraid of making them known. And she will pester you on your principles and how you view the world.

A girl who writes enjoys sex. She also expects you to know what hasty generalization means.

Find a girl who writes. You’ll know that she does because she’ll be writing, blogging, and posting regularly. She’s the girl who will suddenly grab a notebook or her phone to write a phrase or idea down for future reference. She’s never fully in the moment because once something interesting happens, she’s already thinking of how to best describe the event on her journal. Her pens are constantly running out of ink so she always has two of them handy in case one fails.

Buy her preferred pen.

Talk to her about your life, your fears, your dreams. She will be interested in them because she’s genuinely curious about people and their motivations. She will chronicle your love story from its inception, its highs and lows, and, if it doesn’t work out, its death. You will find yourself in the characters she is writing. Something you said or did will be immortalized in prose or poem.

You will never be bored with a girl who writes because she lives a colorful life. It doesn’t mean that she goes on an adventure every day. She doesn’t have to. Exploration of humanity is an adventure in itself. She always has stories to tell whether it’s from a movie she saw, a book she read or a conversation she overheard. She is observant not only of her environment but also of herself. She is constantly questioning her life and ideals and asks things like “Why do a lot of people post stuff like ‘Date a girl who (insert hobby here)?’ Is it that hard to find a date these days?” In short, she is nosy as fuck.

She is always contemplating her relationships and that includes her romantic relationship so you better step it up, son.

A girl who writes won’t nag you. Instead she will write with rage about your fight and what an idiot you are in red ink. But a girl who writes is used to looking at both sides of the story because it’s essential for character development. So contrary to what some people say about women to make them seem like irrational beings, a girl who writes doesn’t believe that she is always right.

If you find a girl who writes, don’t lose her. But don’t hover and disturb her when she’s writing either. She will want to write away from you and everyone else from time to time. Leave her be. She will come back to you as soon as she’s done because she might need help editing her work. Be honest when she asks you what you think of her writing.

Date a girl who writes but always remember that the things people do, no matter how interesting or “cool” those things are, do not equate to them having a personality or, more importantly, being a good person. We are nuanced beings and just because someone writes (or reads or travels or runs or climbs mountains or takes photos), it doesn’t mean you can put them in a box and expect them to behave a certain way. Date someone you like and support them in whatever endeavors they pursue. Make sure that the other person will support you, too.

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